The One Habit You NEED To Stop

Here is something basic:

This is the one Habit you need to Stop: Being a victim. The more you think you are responsible for your own life, the more you will try to influence it.
The less you think you are responsible for your own life the more likely you are to never even try to influence it. So the best thing you can do is to develop a mindset where you take full responsibility for everything in your life. Even if you are wrong, you will reap the benefits of this mindset. The benefits include: Feeling in control, changing your life, and getting more of what you want.
Be aware that you will encounter a weird phenomenon: You will hold yourself accountable for things that you can’t influence. But you won’t be mad, angry, or sad because of it because you will take full responsibility for your feelings too. But how does one undertake this change in perspective? How does one undertake this change away from being a victim? Because it’s hard. And that’s because being a victim is easy. It’s easy to blame others. It is easy to point the finger at others and other things. But it’s not that hard to hake the leadership role of your life. You ask yourself: “What would I do if it’s my fault?”. That’s it. Even if it isn’t. Your brain will find an answer for it. And then you can deal with that answer. One day in elementary school, something bad happened. I think it was a big mess and the teacher didn’t know who did it. A girl said, it wasn’t me but I will clean it. This is an example of the exaggerated everything-is-my-fault-mindset I’m talking about. But! Be aware of not doing it excessively. It needs to serve you! This mindset is essential because it helps you focus on the only thing you can improve directly: Yourself.
It is so important because the only thing you can influence 100% is yourself. When you focus instead on what others do, you lose control. You drift. It’s not your fault anymore but you aren’t in control anymore too. A bad exchange! Be in control and let it be your fault rather.
Because only those who are in control can develop the life they want. This is what you need to understand: If you say that something is someone else’s fault or the fault of your identity or whatever, you get into the habit of being a victim.
This very habit doesn’t distinguish between a situation that suits you and a situation that doesn’t. The only way is to stay away from giving someone else or something else the fault as much as possible.
Sure, if there is really the need for it, go for it or say nothing, but in general, be aware that you form a habit of being a victim. Last but not least: ENJOY your newly found freedom. It is now your life again.
And don’t be afraid of making mistakes. If something is your fault, so what?
Mistakes happen, you need to make a ton of mistakes to be successful! Find the freedom to let things be your fault, even if they aren’t! Like the girl in the elementary school. Someone else might admire you.