How To Get Better At Self-Love 7 times
When one speaks of love in the romantic sense, we meet another person and the feeling of love evolves or doesn’t. But when we speak about self-love, we try to evolve some form of love no matter what because our level of happiness depends on the capability of loving ourselves. The question is: Can we force self-love? The answer is you don’t need to force it. You just need to train it. You can get better at loving yourself because you are capable of loving yourself and you are capable of receiving your love. It’s a skill! Why is that? Because it’s just something you do or don’t do.
Loving yourself is a skill and can be trained.
The best thing you can do is write down at least three things you love about yourself. Do this every night. If you can’t find anything you love, take things you like. If you don’t find three things, take one. You will find more things and you will find things faster. As I said, it’s a skill. Like a magnifying glass, you will see all the beautiful aspects that you can love on yourself rather than your problems.
Have a self-love journal.
Every coin has two sides. If one improves on seeing the good sides and doesn’t care about diminishing his inner critic the battle is lost.
For example, “The world would be a better place without me.”, “What am I supposed to love about myself?”, “I have a bunch of problems.” and “There is nothing to love about me.”.
Such sentences are like poison. They need to be recognized, neutralized, and reversed.
There are poisonous phrases.
First, you need to recognize them. This is sometimes easier said than done. Meditation can help but it’s not necessary! I would recommend meditation nonetheless because of other reasons. So how do you recognize those poisonous phrases? It’s a skill too! Set the intention to recognize the toxic phrases and you will automatically become better at it.
Just wanting is enough to get rid of them.
Now we need to neutralize them. This is easy. Let’s do it with this example: “I have a bunch of problems”. First, you recognize it. You can just find a counterexample. So you find some areas where you have no problems. For example, you could be a great athlete, wife, whatever. You can also think about why it isn’t important. For example: “Problems are chances” (changing the perspective rather than the facts). You can even say why you love yourself nonetheless: Because you treat everyone nice.
There is plenty of option to neutralize a phrase.
After that, you could think of a positive thought instead: “I love my family and my family loves me.” (You can even do this without neutralizing the phrase.) This is what you train in your Self Love Journal. But if it doesn’t become your new standard of thinking it’s not half as effective. What we do is take a bad thought as an anchor for a good one.
Selflove becomes a new standard of thinking and living.
One more thing! One thing sets self-love apart from other love. Not only do you give, but you also receive. So what, you might ask? Accepting a compliment can be difficult. Sometimes you won’t feel worthy or even worthless. That’s your inner critic too. You can use everything that has been described here. Recognize, neutralize (or don’t), and reverse. Plus: See everything that is good. As Jim Rohn said, some see the sunset behind the window and some only see the specs on it. Try to see the sunset and not the specs on the window!